I hope if there are any American Christian Women out there considering marriage to a muslim man that they will think twice and save themselves the pain and heartache. If you are already in a relationship with a muslim man I hope you will share your experiences with us, good or bad.
Are you thinking about having a relationship with a Muslim man? Are you currently in a relationship with a Muslim man? Are you wondering what went wrong? Do you work with a Muslim man and wonder why he is so rude especially to women?
Most women here in the USA are really not suspicious toward these men but rather curious about their culture. Some women are simply blind sided by their charm and good looks. They will sweep you off of your feet and bend over backwards for you at first, then the deception slowly starts to creep in. It will take you by surprise at first and he will make all kinds of excuses and stories to keep you off balance until one day you realize it's not stories but just blatant lies. You can confront him but I wouldn't advise it.
The first thing you have to do is really understand how they are raised to view women and realationships with women. They look at women as being inferior almost like a slave (for a lack of a better word). What I mean by that is most of their women are at home all the time, mother,sisters,aunts all the females. When the man comes in the home all the women rush around getting food for them and basically obeying their every command, the women do what they are told to do period. This is part of their custom until they reach the age of 27-30, then it is time to find a wife in fear they maybe considered gay by the family and the community. If you are a christian a muslim man can marry you but only after the approval of the whole family, and if you are a US citizen all the better, because this elevates his status in the family which make the marriage accepted by muslim law. Jews and Muslims are not allowed to marry as well as non believers or aithest. A female muslum is not allowed to marry anyone except another muslim.
It is really hard to understand why but all the males that marry and leave their home country are under serious obligation to send money home each and every week to support their family. It doesn't matter that you may be suffering financially or having some sort of need, he will send the money regardless of what you think, after all you are a woman and your opinion doesn't count.
When it comes to money he will have the things he wants, and wear the best name brand clothes while you try to figure out how to pay the bills and the debt he is incurring for you. I have talked to other women who have lost their homes and everything they own, and in some cases had to file bankruptcy. For some sadly even that doesn't work, because once you file the I-130 form for a marriage visa you are totally responsible for him financially. If he doesn't pay his bills you have to, or at least until he becomes a bonafide US citizen. Go to www.uscis.gov to see the affidavidt of support.
When the relationships starts you may not know some of these things and they may have never even crossed your mind, but I assure you there are more people is this situation than you can imagine. The terror and fear he impales on you will come later. It is no game it is real and he will put you on an emotional roller coaster and do his level best to break you down to see things his way. As American women we don't exactly take things lying down very easily. It is extremely hard to adapt to this middle eastern culture. You can make some compromises but you can't loose yourself in the process.
